Female Hating in Australia's Top Model Show

Hi - The Top Model television shows are pure female hating!!!! It is time that we started to react against them. In Australia, one of the top model contestants was kicked off the show because she was "too big". She was a size 8 and her weight to height ratio put her at the bottom of the healthy range. As I looked at her on the news I couldn't understand what was "too big" about her.

This kind of message is pure female hating. They pit very young girls against each other and measure their worth and value by how they look, which obviously includes how skinny they look, and they market this show to equally young girls, teaching them to judge their worth by how they look.

During the same week on the news they interviewed Elle McPherson who had just been awarded to top spot in England's Top Model show. As they celebrated her Australian heritage, they also pitted all other women against her, making us compare ourselves with her, making her a role model that we should all aspire to and look like, without mentioning a single utterance that a body like that requires a serious time and money investment. My guess is that she spends far more time on maintaining her body than I do on writing my next book. And she certainly spends far more money. Her body is her trade mark, as she admitted, so it that needs to be maintained at all cost. How can anyone compete with that? Why should any of us want to compete with that? Making women feel inadequate against a woman who uses her body as her trade mark is pure female hatred!

Don't fit in too much because it doesn't work!

Hello - I haven't been blogging for a while because I've been writing my next book. It's going extremely well. I'm not a multi-tasker - I like to focus on one thing at a time. Today I wanted to look up and write a blog and say that I have a title and a very good introduction! I'm not going to tell anyone as yet because I don't like to jinx it. To any writer out there I would suggest you keep your writing very close to your chest until you are ready to let it out into the world. Show it only to those whose opinion you trust and  who will hold your writing voice with tender respect.

I wanted to write about how lately I've learnt an important lesson - fitting in with other people doesn't work - it only leaves you invisible and creating a normal that then becomes extremely difficult to change. Just like with businesswomen who give their time and skills away for free who then have a difficult time getting paid because they have set a normal, I without realising it, set a normal in a few situations where I did too much fitting in and fitting around without voicing my needs. I didn't realise that my bending-over-backwards would be not be acknowledged because it had become normal. 

Recently I tried to speak what I need and it wasn't welcomed. At first I was angry and shocked at how invisible my support had been and then I thought sod it - this is ridiculous, I need to return my gaze to within myself and stick to what is right and best for me and in the future be far more verbal and sure about boundaries and where an okay give and take is. I have noticed that as a woman and a woman who loves to empower other women, I hit against the expectation, most often from other women, that I don't have any needs and that my needs are their needs. Though this is frustrating, it's all part of the same issue - women's needs are invisible, as I write about in "The Silent Female Scream".

And over the last months I have realised that I still have some work to do myself!